Simple DIY: Managing Your Anger/Sadness

We've all been there; getting angry or sad and then end up lashing out. Yeah, it almost sounds too familiar. Unfortunately, many of us don't know how to handle our anger well and it ends up being someone we care about getting the best of it...or worse, destroying ourselves. It hurts.

BUT, I have a new solution to the problem that doesn't cost a fortune and is easily effective in many ways, mostly therapeutic!
I like to call my newest project: "Project Anti-Acting Out". Why? Because when we are angry or sometimes in a severe state of sadness, a lot of us act out in a manner that is quite unhealthy. I had just announced my project earlier in the evening on my Facebook and had reached many responses to it. The best part about this method is that you don't need insurance or a licensed therapist, but a notebook, pen, and your thoughts.
However, not just any thoughts...No. These thoughts are meant to be specific. The way we feel when we are angry or sad is usually feelings of hatred. These feelings of hatred usually stem off into curse words that we normally would say aloud, but instead, you say it on paper; a one worded sentence over and over and over....until you feel better.

Example:
"Hate. Hate. Hate. Hate. Hate. Fuck. Bitch. Asshole. Jerk. Fucker. Cunt" and the list goes on and on.Okay, Yeah I know my words might be a little vulgar to the norm, but "Poophead" wasn't really in the cards when my anger struck...I am more verbally abusive when it comes to my attack. When it comes to feeling better, it's best to write it out the way you normally would if you were actually going to say it...but instead, you're not saying it to anyone but yourself.

Why is it effective?
Because. Think about it....Instead of striking down a victim in a verbally abusive manner, you write it down and keep writing it until you feel better. You just keep going until you no longer feel the need to. It's as simple as that..Oh and did I mention that it's incredibly cheap? I'm sure many of you have a notebook and pen lying around, so go make use of the unwritten journal and make it into a personal tool to self medicate yourself in a healthier way.

And that's all that needs to be explained.

How do you "act out"?

Sincerely,
Josie

Pour Some Sugar On Me: Life As A Sugar Baby

This is a very tough subject to really put into words, which is why I have made a couple videos on my YouTube account to really express how I feel about the subject and have received some very appreciated responses to the matter as well.
This lifestyle is not for everyone and I will just say this first and foremost. This is something that can be adapted into one's lifestyle, but seriously, if it's not for you, you will know and therefore do not pursue it any further. This is some very sage advice that I will be throwing out into the open to use as you please, but caution: This is all at your own risk and I do not accept or should be held accountable for your actions.

What is a sugar baby, you ask? A sugar baby is a female whom dates wealthy (mostly) older males (called "Sugar Daddies" to gain money, gifts, and luxury. Basically, if you work it right, you can get anything your heart desires...but that's too easy, right? Exactly. There's an abundance that goes along with the rewards that could potentially become high risks for you in the process and that shall be mentioned.

There are many ways to attain the Sugar Daddy of your dreams, but just be warned that a background check might come in handy if it deems appropriate. However, many sites these days that offer the SD/SB relationship require for SD's only to have one upon signing up and I love this as it will confirm everything you really want and/or need to know. However, if you do it a craigslist way and search, that is at your own risk and I do not condone this as craigslist is the shadiest of all places on the internet (insert Lifetime movie: "The Craigslist Killer").

Now as for the sites, what ones should you look into? Here's a short list that I personally have enjoyed:

• SeekingArrangements (Great site with many benefits and lots of verification)
• MissTravel (For those looking to be a companion and see the world)
• Sugarbaby4u (A little meh, but does the job)
• MarryMeSugarDaddy (Obviously for those looking for love and wealth)
• WhatsYourPrice (Very self explanatory...you set the rate and they pay to take you on the date!)
• SugarSugar (Another basic site for SD/SB dating)

So which site is right for you? Obviously that is all determined by your wants/needs and the rest is history. That's the fun part of the whole process, but next is the scary part which many young women tend to disregard....

1. Safety...and in case that isn't obvious enough, then maybe you need to check yourself for some common sense. You have every option in this world to make yourself safe from danger just as you do to make yourself approachable. Set limits or better yet boundaries and draw a thick line. Put your foot down and never back away from your comfort zone. The most common mistake that Sugar Babies make is the whole getting too comfortable wayyyy too fast. This is how you get yourself in danger and no amount of money can provide you that kind of security.
2. Honesty...if there's a will, there's a way and that will help you get what you want out of the relationship. You can't expect the Sugar Daddy to take control of everything, no, that is your job. How do you expect to get what you want if you don't lay it out on the table and have it recognized? Exactly my point. Never beat around the bush as it will only create more frustration on your part. Don't lie and say you are childless when in fact you are a mother. An SD will wonder why you aren't making arrangements as often and will tend to move on unless you provide him with that info that you have other responsibilities and need to tend to that first. Don't worry about it either because a real SD will comply with that and like I said, YOU are in control of this relationship.
3. Trust...A relationship is made up of this one very word and just like a normal relationship, this applies to an arrangement. Don't act all into it if you're not going to hold up your end of the bargain, SD's will notice if you're just in it to take the money and run...no, that is not how it's done. This is a relationship and in which you basically tend to the SD as well. If you're looking to just score a Louis and some cash to run with, then you might as well just become a Cam Girl because Cam Girl's are soulless in that aspect.

So now that we have the 3 main basic (or what I like to call) "Rules of Disregard" out of the way, what's next?

Ahh, yes...Your Profile and such....

So you have made an account on a site and now you're wondering how to make it all come together; to get those Sugar Daddies running your way to vie for your attention. But now you're at a loss of words and lack of imagination, here's a few things that could help you benefit:

1. Make sure your profile picture is something that shows off your good side; something that maybe you have gained much positive feedback on FB or other social networking sites. Don't be too revealing, but don't look like you just rolled out of bed, snapped a pic, and decided that was good enough. No, make up is your friend and lighting does wonders. If you have a few extra pounds, don't photoshop it; accentuate it. If you have extra pounds, explain it and don't be insecure. You are woman so let the SD world hear you roar (Katy Perry style!).
2. Do not hide any details. If you have goals and dreams then be sure to list it! An SD loves a woman with passion and how else are they going to know to help you if you don't tell them. However, though details are great, don't be too obvious...leave some mystery open for discussion. 
3. If you're looking for an SD right away, then don't wait for one to contact you...initiate the conversation first by sending a message, wink...whatever is available. When you do get to talking, always talk on the site first and then give personal numbers out later. If he's genuine then he will understand.
4. Lastly, when you get to the stage of arrangement status then make it local first...or have him come to you. especially if you're not comfortable with traveling just yet. However, if you are interested in travel first, then be sure to have him request a hotel room for you first so you have a place to go and NEVER bring him there with you just for cautionary purposes. The last thing that is to be mentioned is that a public "date" is sagely important just in the beginning because who knows what his intentions are and that is something you need to guard.

These are all the basics that are necessary to know in order to become a successful Sugar Baby. As you can see, a lot more is entailed than expected. It may seem easy to keep up with, but the lifestyle traps you into it fast to the point where you think you can handle more than you can chew. When I first got into the Lifestyle, I had no idea just how addictive it could become and I later found myself with 3 SDs and a lot of regret. Stick to a slow pace and just go ahead and proceed with caution.

If you think this is all fairytale without the horror, you are dead wrong. I have encountered times when I could have gotten myself in some serious harm and back then I wish I had someone to guide with with the knowledge that I have pertained nowadays. I started out the worst way possible and that was getting into the relationship without setting limits until it was almost too late. With that being said:

You do not have to have sex with your Sugar Daddy. It may come as a surprise to some of you, but a lot of SDs aren't just looking for a fine piece of ass, they look for companionship as well which is also rather hard to come across. If you feel you aren't ready to engage in such things, you make sure that is known and any respectful person will comply with that, especially your SD (or genuine SD).

I have gained numerous responses retorting that what I have done and what many other women do is basically prostitution- Wrong! A prostitute and a SB may seem very similar (and which they are in the business aspect) there are many things that set apart an SB from a prostitute.

A prostitute is basically all business without the companionship. They gather clients and get paid for sex and sex only. Prostitutes basically have no further connection with these people and never go outside of their business to interact with their customers otherwise. With an SB, you make connections with these men you intend to pursue and you go out on dates and create other activities that you both enjoy together; it's an ongoing arrangement and just like every other normal relationship, you make a choice to engage in sexual activity with your SD based on your limits, but you aren't bound to it just for money like a prostitute would. I like to consider an SD/SB relationship like any other relationship out there...think of it as having a very wealthy and much older boyfriend.

So you see? There is a difference after all and if you so desire and get to that point in time, you could potentially end up marrying your SD if you choose to do so...that is all up to you. You keep it as you'd like and it is to be complied. Sex is just something us humans do as a part of nature, but if it is morally wrong for you to do so, then you don't have to. Believe it or not, not all SDs are in it for sex...many of them are just lonely and need someone to hang out with or talk to so as a token of their appreciation, they spoil you. It works out on so many levels, but you need to understand that a certain gain of trust is what makes it happen.

You can definitely benefit from this lifestyle and I have seen many success in it. I have been asked if it's possible to quit a dead end job that you're already committed to and just be a full-time SD? Absolutely! If you feel your arrangements are working very well, then go for it, but I personally like a fall back in case things don't go the way as intended. I actually encourage many young SBs to continue working while doing the SD/SB relationship. This also applies to you Co-Ed women. That is very self-explained as well.

I obviously wouldn't have came on here to talk about this subject if I had no knowledge whatsoever and in fact because of my success with my YT vids and awesome feedback, I have been offered appearances on various talk shows to explain my experience as well as advice to aspiring SBs out there. To be fair, I have respectfully declined to do so though I had many interest, but maybe one day I will share my experience with the world on a live broadcast...right now, it's just not suit.

There is more to life than being a Sugar Baby. I love how normal everything is in my life without the luxury...which was nice and I was very fortunate to get, but finding your own independence is so much more rewarding and safer I must add. Without the pressure of keeping a relationship I wasn't happy with, I have found myself so much happier to connect with someone out in the real world that cares for me more than just arm candy and for me I get to care for someone and benefit from that on the basis of love. That to me is so much more luxurious. In the words of Lorde: "Well never be Royals, it doesn't run in our blood, that kind of luxe just aint for us, we crave a different kind of buzz". That to me speaks volumes because sometimes stepping outside of where you come from can help you value what you had in the beginning.

Now the last thing I will add is that if you have to hide your relationships/arrangements from family and friends out of shame, then maybe it's a good idea for you to gain perspective on the subject first before pursuing it. I know many joke about the matter, but if you respect the feelings of those that you truly admire, it will help you gain a better sense of what you should really be doing. It's rather complicated to begin with, but it's really your decision and if that's the case, go for it, but keep it on the DL until it is safe to openly admit it.

That is all I have for you and in the meantime ask yourself if this is right for you. Can you handle this responsibility and are you secure enough with yourself to really pull through it? Any other questions that I may have not covered enough for you, send it my way and I will do my best to respond.

As always, I only have the greatest intentions to provide you with only the best I can possibly manage.

Sincerely,

Josie